What do I buy? Where do I take my date out for dinner? How do I make Valentine's Day special? If you find yourself asking yourself any of these question this Valentine's Day season, fear no more. Most of the time, we stress out about making our partner happy because we want to make them feel as special as they are to us. I'm here to tell you that your fear is easier to overcome than you realize (and, if done right, cheaper too).
First, a DIY Valentine's Day is the best way you can show your partner that you care. If you want to score points this Valentine's Day, forget the fancy restaurant and the expensive jewelry. Call them up and say, "I have Valentine's Day taken care of." This takes pressure off of your partner and, maybe, they don't do well in situations where they make all the decisions. This may be hard for my Type-A's and control freaks.
Second, start planning. If you are one of those that can't handle making all the decisions, ask a trusted friend that you can be open and honest with. Friends love to help with situations where you feel vulnerable. After all, that is why they are your friend, right? The DIY route is a complete path of freedom. You can plan a night of food, wine and massage. You can plan a night in pajamas, Netflix, carry out and cuddles. You can have a memorable Valentine's Day and only spend about $10-$50. The best gift that you can give someone on Valentine's Day is yourself. With Wednesday being Valentine's Day this year, don't let a school night put off showing your partner how much you care about them.
The day of Valentine's Day, BE EXCITED! Text 1-2 messages saying that you are excited and can't wait until later. Be careful not to overwhelm your partner. Be prepared for your evening together. This takes time and make sure not to make time last minute. No one likes it when a person says that they are going to take charge and doesn't.
According to statista.com, 45% of Americans will not have sex on Valentine's Day. When it comes to sex, let it happen organically. You have a choice to have a memorable Valentine's Day that was sweet and relaxing. Or, you could have a Valentine's Day where you remember it because you were mad about not having sex. Don't be that person. With Valentine's Day being on a Wednesday, I'm sure there will be many people choosing disappointment. Does sex equal love?
You've made all the plans and set the scene for an evening that is perfect. Now, enjoy the night and make sure to take a selfie at some point in the night. Most people make plans and feel that they have to stick to them. Keep your plans simple. If it helps, keep within what you would normally do on a Wednesday night. Come home and change. Eat. Lounge around the TV. There are so many things possible when you look at how simple it really is. You can make excuses that you don't have a sitter or that you can't afford it. You don't realize that your love life is just like the rest of your life - It's all by your design.
The next day make sure to tell your partner that you enjoyed the night together. Taking for granted that you were meant to enjoy Valentine's Day together is never a good thing for either party. So, be sure to follow up with your partner. A simple text message or a phone call (if people still do that anymore) is perfect. Remember that selfie that you took, run by your local Walgreen's or CVS on your way home and make a copy of it and put it in a frame. Place the picture on their side of the bed. Then, watch their heart melt when they arrive home.
If your partner is disappointed by having a more DIY Valentine's Day, it may be time to reevaluate your relationship and its priorities. Is your partner happier with flashy things and caviar? You poured your heart out and the result was not what you expected. That's life. Fortunately, for you Valentine's Day is one day out of the year. If you are going all out this year for Valentine's Day, will you remember it next year?
If you end up single this year by taking my suggestion, I apologize. I promise you will find someone that will appreciate your sincere attempts at showing your more vulnerable side. When you say "I love you" it should never mean "I do for you" or "I buy for you".
Was your night epic? YES! I hope that you would share in the comments below of your experience. If this Valentine's Day finds you alone all above can apply to having a date with yourself. In either case, have a happy Valentine's Day!