Remember those days of staying up late talking about nothing, anticipating hours in the bedroom and pouncing on every text message? These were the days is what many feel about their relationships or marriages. Do relationships lose their luster or shine after time? If they do, get your polish out and start rubbing. Here are 5 essential things you need to do keep the relationship strong.
1. Be Spontaneous.
We are creatures of habit. Naturally, this leads to routines in every aspect of our lives. To break up the monotony, skip out on the plans for the weekend and do something to revive that weekend schedule. While most have a hard time breaking the cycle, once on the road or in a plane and left with no other option, you would be surprised how much the departure from the norm is appreciated.
2. Talk about the Future
While many of us remain in the present with our relationships. It is good to talk about the future. You can set loose plans, create goals together and design a life that you both enjoy. Talking about the future too soon can lead to the fatality of the relationship. Be careful. Also, be sure to avoid topics that are sensitive like kids. Having a plan is good even when you are living day-to-day and having a plan helps you grow.
3. Ask How your Partner's day Was
Many people forget this very simple and important question. Asking how someone's day was is sometimes the most important thing to them. Not only does it show you care, you show your partner that you are there for support. However, hold the advice unless asked for. You may find yourself in a situation where asking was your biggest mistake.
4. Join in a Hobby Together
Most couples have the belief that you should do separate activities. While having your own space is crucial for a relationship to survive, having a hobby that you enjoy together can give you something to look forward to. Hobbies come in all shapes and sizes. You and your partner can guarantee that having that one thing that you do weekly, monthly or bi-monthly will create memories for years to come.
5. Embrace the moments of Being Human
While many look at farting and getting completely flustered as too vulnerable and taboo, show your partner all sides of you without shame. In the same light, let your partner show all of their sides as well. Maintaining a safe space to completely be yourselves may be the only area that you feel that way. Be a support to your partner not a critic for things that they can't control.
When we choose to spend the rest of our lives with someone, you sign up for a whole list of things that you didn't think of. These are only 5 things that every successful relationship has. There are many more. If you have found that special someone hang on to them. You never know when life will throw a curveball and leave you alone. My advice to you is: Enjoy the ride.