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Remember those days of staying up late talking about nothing, anticipating hours in the bedroom and pouncing on every text message? These were the days is what many feel about their relationships or marriages. Do relationships lose their luster or shine after time? If they do, get your polish out and start rubbing. Here are 5 essential things you need to do keep the relationship strong.
1. Be Spontaneous.
We are creatures of habit. Naturally, this leads to routines in every aspect of our lives. To break up the monotony, skip out on the plans for the weekend and do something to revive that weekend schedule. While most have a hard time breaking the cycle, once on the road or in a plane and left with no other option, you would be surprised how much the departure from the norm is appreciated.
2. Talk about the Future
While many of us remain in the present with our relationships. It is good to talk about the future. You can set loose plans, create goals together and design a life that you both enjoy. Talking about the future too soon can lead to the fatality of the relationship. Be careful. Also, be sure to avoid topics that are sensitive like kids. Having a plan is good even when you are living day-to-day and having a plan helps you grow.
3. Ask How your Partner's day Was
Many people forget this very simple and important question. Asking how someone's day was is sometimes the most important thing to them. Not only does it show you care, you show your partner that you are there for support. However, hold the advice unless asked for. You may find yourself in a situation where asking was your biggest mistake.
4. Join in a Hobby Together
Most couples have the belief that you should do separate activities. While having your own space is crucial for a relationship to survive, having a hobby that you enjoy together can give you something to look forward to. Hobbies come in all shapes and sizes. You and your partner can guarantee that having that one thing that you do weekly, monthly or bi-monthly will create memories for years to come.
5. Embrace the moments of Being Human
While many look at farting and getting completely flustered as too vulnerable and taboo, show your partner all sides of you without shame. In the same light, let your partner show all of their sides as well. Maintaining a safe space to completely be yourselves may be the only area that you feel that way. Be a support to your partner not a critic for things that they can't control.
When we choose to spend the rest of our lives with someone, you sign up for a whole list of things that you didn't think of. These are only 5 things that every successful relationship has. There are many more. If you have found that special someone hang on to them. You never know when life will throw a curveball and leave you alone. My advice to you is: Enjoy the ride.
We all can listen to the podcasts. We can all watch the same free online content about how to make your dream life happen. We all love hearing about the things we need to do, but very seldom to we take action on those very things to better our own lives. Are we content with what we have?
I have been working with Wesley Chapman with A Human Project and my experience has been a roller coaster. It was just last week that I had a 'lightbulb moment' and all things seemed to come together in this Big Bang.
I have always wanted to do good things with and for people. This was my gift and my curse. I had unconditional love but my love had conditions. I would do things that would have these unmentioned attachments. Some of these attachments, I wasn't aware of consciously. So, for the past several months, I have been working on this trait of unconditional love that I thought I had mastered so long ago. We all do this with our partners, parents, children, co-workers and anyone that we come into contact with. I started to realize that I had no idea what unconditional love was at all, but I screamed from the mountain tops that I was unconditional love.
Breaking apart every failed human relationship I have had in my past made me realize my fault and the part I played in the downfall of that relationship. It is only now that I can look at these people and truly forgive them while finding a way to erase the guilt from my own heart. The time of forgiving myself has come and gone. Moving to a country where I know no one has made me realize that, in this world and for it to work, we all need each other. Every one of us is a support to one another.
I look at the reason why people hate on each other and want to hide my head in shame. This world is a cruel place and we wonder why suicide is looked at as the only option for some. You have to know love to know hate. You have to know wrong to know forgiveness. You have to know a superhero to know a villain.
There are three reasons that you have negative feelings towards a person:
- They have something you want (a lifestyle, a talent, etc)
- They bring out something dark or negative that you possess (a person that is late, a person that fails to keep commitments, etc)
- They failed to meet an expectation that you set (Most likely, you didn't tell them that expectation.)
I don't bring these things up because I am pointing a finger at anyone but myself. I do have people that hate me, my life and my very being. How do I let my haters affect me? I don't. People hate some of societies most valued figures. As we approach Republic Day in India, I am reminded that even Ghandi, the leader of the independence of India, was shot dead because someone hated him. He promoted peace and freedom.
I can't speak for others, but I can speak for my own actions. Have I always done proud by my parents? No. Have I let people down? Yes. Do I regret any of it? No. Everything I have done in my life has lead to a lesson in some way. Have people been hurt by my actions? Yes. Have I burnt many bridges? Yes. Again, do I regret any of it? No. The stage in my life where I have started letting all this go has begun.
Life really is as simple as we want to make it. We need more kindness in the world. We need more compassion. We need more change. The world is already changing all around us everyday. Are you part of that change? - or - Are you leading the change in your own life?
If your answer is no to both of those questions, it's time for your own life to start. Unfortunately, in reality, no one is going to kick start your life for you. The time is now.